Have you ever pondered how the soil of our childhood shapes the essence of who we become? Ace and Yella certainly have, and they're here to unravel tales from their East Hartford roots, juxtaposing the journey with the cultural backdrop of Hartford. Our lively discussion meanders through the stereotypes and truths of locality, challenging the notion that geography is destiny. These narratives are more than just a recounting of the past; they are a vibrant exploration of identity, community, and the underdog spirit that resonates with places far beyond Connecticut's borders.
Fatherhood, the art of co-parenting, and the quest for personal integrity take the stage as we navigate the often turbulent waters of relationships. Our guests openly recount their transformations from passionate partners to dedicated co-parents, imparting wisdom gleaned from their own paternal figures. Intimacy and trust come under the microscope as we dissect the realities of staying true in monogamous relationships, the trials of infidelity, and the pursuit of peaceful coexistence with our significant others. These stories do more than just outline the contours of modern love; they serve as a beacon, guiding us through the complexities of partnership and personal growth.
And what of ambition in the midst of life's relentless hustle? A strength coach turns entrepreneur shares his vision of vending machine ventures, blending the drive for business success with the unwavering commitment to his clients. As we delve into the fabric of family life, we examine the intricate weave of traditional and blended households, the role of parental figures, and the legacy we leave for our children. This episode isn't merely a conversation; it's an odyssey through the many layers of life's endeavors, from the heart of our homes to the horizons of our dreams. Join Ace, Yella, and me, as we traverse the rich landscape of the human condition.
Follow our IG & Twitter for live updates @LFTGRadio
Have you ever pondered how the soil of our childhood shapes the essence of who we become? Ace and Yella certainly have, and they're here to unravel tales from their East Hartford roots, juxtaposing the journey with the cultural backdrop of Hartford. Our lively discussion meanders through the stereotypes and truths of locality, challenging the notion that geography is destiny. These narratives are more than just a recounting of the past; they are a vibrant exploration of identity, community, and the underdog spirit that resonates with places far beyond Connecticut's borders.
Fatherhood, the art of co-parenting, and the quest for personal integrity take the stage as we navigate the often turbulent waters of relationships. Our guests openly recount their transformations from passionate partners to dedicated co-parents, imparting wisdom gleaned from their own paternal figures. Intimacy and trust come under the microscope as we dissect the realities of staying true in monogamous relationships, the trials of infidelity, and the pursuit of peaceful coexistence with our significant others. These stories do more than just outline the contours of modern love; they serve as a beacon, guiding us through the complexities of partnership and personal growth.
And what of ambition in the midst of life's relentless hustle? A strength coach turns entrepreneur shares his vision of vending machine ventures, blending the drive for business success with the unwavering commitment to his clients. As we delve into the fabric of family life, we examine the intricate weave of traditional and blended households, the role of parental figures, and the legacy we leave for our children. This episode isn't merely a conversation; it's an odyssey through the many layers of life's endeavors, from the heart of our homes to the horizons of our dreams. Join Ace, Yella, and me, as we traverse the rich landscape of the human condition.
Follow our IG & Twitter for live updates @LFTGRadio
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Speaker 2:I'm out of my body, I'm ready to glitch. You know I gotta stay with the stick, get back in my city and sick, tell she love me, she poppin' the tip and I drop a op. I ain't dropping the diss. I know niggas hate when I'm talking my shit. Niggas hate me. I'm son like Chris. You ain't tryna spin, but they get out the whip, but they get out the fuck.
Speaker 3:That's still 10 toes of my fucking. Amore Said I'm ugly like she was a fuck. We're brought in live from the motherfucker we got us here, boy Elliot Carter, and I'm here with two of my Good Brev drinks today Doing a little casual conversation With Ace, my man Yela. Y'all speak up, let him know where you from and what you stand for today.
Speaker 4:What up? What up? It's your boy, yela, from Isarfrid, and I'll do training. I'm a strength coach and everything like that. Okay, just here, my brother kicking it with him and everything like that, just introduced me To you and everything just here to you. Know, chop it up, let y'all know what it is and everything for me. Okay, let's get into it.
Speaker 1:I'm from the East, from Isarfrid, and if you know me, you know me by Ace. If you don't, a lot of people know me by Hearing as well. You know. Just here, to chop it up, my boy, you know what I'm saying. Have a little casual conversation. You know what I'm saying. So we gonna, we gonna get into it real soon. Yeah, talk to me, talk to me. Talk to me, talk to me about your upbring.
Speaker 3:How is it growing up in Isarfrid? I ain't gonna lie, bro. Growing up in Isarfrid.
Speaker 1:Shit was kinda fun it was, but I'm from we left Isarfrid, probably Like this boy. My brother was born Left Isarfrid, probably like 4 or 5 years old, and then we moved to West Hartford West Hartford For a little bit and then we just Managed to East Hartford and that's what I was raised by the rest of my life.
Speaker 3:That's where you been ever since.
Speaker 1:From grade school all the way up to high school. Okay, so anybody ask me, I ain't afraid to say that I'm from East Hartford, I'm born in Hartford, but I'm from East Hartford.
Speaker 3:I'm noticing this as I speak To more people In Connecticut in the Hartford area. Is it A big difference to be from East Hartford or?
Speaker 1:Hartford. It's a big difference. It's a big difference because so it's like 63rd and 64th, it's not, it's like the Eafing Bridge, but it's just like Hartford is his own world. If you look at anything in my Connecticut, that's the first thing you probably don't hear Hartford and taxes. That's what you go ahead from Connecticut, hartford and taxes. Hartford is the hood. A lot of people from East Hartford, like myself, we came From Hartford and we moved to East Hartford. So when I was growing up in East Hartford, a lot of people that I grew up, when I was my friends, they were from Hartford, from other towns, they're not even from Connecticut. A lot of people migrated from Hartford.
Speaker 3:Even with the last interview I did, there was somebody here from East Hartford and I introduced him. I was like yeah, he's from Hartford. He was just looking at me like Cool, from Hartford, I'm not from Hartford.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you gotta. You gotta say that Because a lot of people look at you Away from Connecticut. You look a certain way, you dress a certain way and you're from Hartford. You got Cardi's on you from Hartford. Sometimes that nigga may not be from Hartford, he's Hartford, bloomfield, windsor. Everybody got their picks who they fuck with. People think East Hartford Soft. A lot of people are soft. They got an underdog, yeah basically. I don't take it no way. I don't get into that.
Speaker 3:I can relate. I'm from Staten Island. When it comes to being an underdog, staten Island is the borough that's always forgotten, that's always slept on. I know how you feel when you say Y'all are slept on. They think y'all are weak or whatever the case may be, I can relate.
Speaker 1:To me it's funny Because Wherever you from, it do make you, but at the end of the day you're still a man, so you still got a stand on your own too. Nobody cares where you from Exactly. I meet a lot of niggas, a lot of street niggas. My upbringing is I was raised by that. That's what it is. I can't name a block in Hartford. I'm not from Hartford. I was raised in Bowles Park Between 5 and 7. That's what I can think. That's what my mom told me. All I know is that you're Hartford For me. You still gotta be a man. I'm gonna fuck where you from.
Speaker 3:You gotta stand on your own too.
Speaker 1:That's a fact. It's a misconception. You ain't from Hartford, you not hood. I ain't like that. There's a lot of niggas from the hood that I feel they ain't like that. You just from the hood.
Speaker 3:It's like that everywhere. It's like that in New York too Staten Island, brooklyn, queens there's niggas, that's in the hood. That's just simply not like that. Not like that.
Speaker 1:You just from the hood. Niggas know you from that block, that's it.
Speaker 3:You grew up over there, you ain't with nothing. So yeah, look, get into your upbringing a little bit more. So yeah, just you know.
Speaker 4:A little bit of like the Did y'all grow up?
Speaker 3:together Same household.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah, like that's my role. Dog for real. Oh, okay, okay, okay, we got it, we got into it all. Man Like from the fights, from the this, like this is my role. Dog for real yeah, you know, menace is going on. Man Like just you know being out there like playing ball, so how many?
Speaker 3:years apart, are y'all Four, four, yeah, okay.
Speaker 4:Good role model? Yeah, absolutely. When I look at him, he is the best role model that I have about how a father Is supposed to look, how a father is supposed to treat his daughters, the relationship that you want to have, how many kids you have I got no kids right now. You want kids Absolutely.
Speaker 3:You have a girl, yeah, a fiance, okay. So it seems Like you're taking the necessary steps Before becoming a father 100%.
Speaker 4:Me and my girl Been with each other for like 13 years Like first love, first love type shit, bro, high school sweetheart.
Speaker 3:So are you telling me right now that this woman is the last Is the only woman that you've been with for the last 13 years. That's the only woman my man.
Speaker 4:Never stepped out. Nope, that's my heart, that's my soul, that's my best friend right there.
Speaker 3:And do you trust and believe that?
Speaker 4:She's reciprocated that to you. 100%, 100%. That's true love, 100% with everything, with everything. Trust me, I would never put a ring on If I didn't, like I said, 13 years deep. Are you a jealous man? No, no.
Speaker 3:Has there ever been Any type of situation when you Questioned or doubted your partner's loyalty? And that's gonna go for both of you.
Speaker 4:That's a good question. Probably, like earlier on, type shit Like we're, you know, young, stupid, like not even supposed to be in a relationship, like when we first started fucking around with each other we were like 14, 15 Bro. So it's like we're going through all these adult emotions and everything and we don't even know how to process this shit. So, yeah, we went through mad shit in the beginning, all the ups and downs and everything, but you know long we spent With each other. Just you know again to know each other For real, like seeing each other through the ups and downs, like growing with each other and shit, like it was. Just I couldn't look past them, like this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.
Speaker 4:Like she's been with me at the lowest Of my lows, like when I was broke, when I had nothing, never made me feel no different. Always made me feel like I was the man All that Always built me up man. So like when I got to the position that I was able to give her what I wanted to give her, Like I would have been a fool not to do that for her, With everything she's done for me, how she always held me down and everything like that I'll be crazy, Like I had to do that for her.
Speaker 3:So you're 13 years in. How deep are you?
Speaker 1:We are, we. Are we? A year about to be two years, all right.
Speaker 3:So, girl, that you with now is not the mother of your kids? No, you have one BM, or two, two.
Speaker 1:All right, here we go.
Speaker 3:Yeah, how is your relationship with BM number one?
Speaker 1:BM number one. I'm gonna just say it because it's real nigga shit About BM number one that's my dog. I say that's my dog is just because that was somebody that I was with for eight and a half years. Okay, and I'm saying like, as teenagers you know what I'm saying we had our first kid together that we planned, planned her Youngest hell, not knowing nothing. Yeah, it's being in love, type shit. You know what I'm saying. But the reason I say that's my dog because we grew together as parents Fuck the relationship as parents.
Speaker 1:We learned from each other. I learned a lot of shit from her. You know what I'm saying. I'm hopeful that she learned some shit from me. I'm not, you know what I'm saying. But I felt like we maybe make some mistakes and not like being parents, like trying to learn how to. You know what I'm saying. But for me personally, when it becoming a parent for me became easy because, like I said, I had, you know, my stepfather I had my biological father too. You know what I'm saying. But my biological father was in the streets. I'm saying my stepfather was too, but he was around more. You know what I'm saying. Yeah, my father did my biological father, anybody that I know in my heart for this name, lush. He did like almost then they're 10 years, they eight and a half, nine. I was like eight, nine years old when he came home. So no, no, no, he came home. I was like eight.
Speaker 3:he left when I was eight, nine, so you was like 16 when you came home, 16 when I came home In fact, that's from two weeks I had my birthday at 16.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know what I'm saying. So I always knew like, being a parent, I can never, I don't ever want to put my kids through this, like I don't ever, ever want to make them feel like how.
Speaker 3:I felt Were you able to develop a relationship with him after?
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, of course, like right now, that's my boy, that's my dog, like I love my dad. Do you respect him as a father?
Speaker 3:Yes, now, like it took time, yeah, it definitely took time, but it was able to happen.
Speaker 1:It was able to happen. We had been through some shit. How long did it take? It took years. It took years. So it was a work in progress. Like you know what I'm saying. Like I can't even put a time line on it. You know what I'm saying, because we would go through some shit and then, like then we on the odds. You know what I'm saying. And then it's like we have makeup, and you know what I'm saying. It's like he has to get to know me as me. You know what I'm saying. You gotta understand. Like he wasn't there to raise me. You know what I'm saying. He gotta learn you. He gotta learn me. That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:That's a man though you know what I'm saying. He didn't get to mold you, so now you gotta learn you.
Speaker 1:Right. So now he learned me and I'm learning him. So now we know what each other like and we don't like. We match. You know what I'm saying. Like pull up on my dad all the time. We smoke, we sip something, we just talk about whatever business, whatever, like I found always put me on game. I always felt like at a young age I was you know what I'm saying Above. You know what I'm saying Because I had those type of room moms. Yeah for sure, that's what's up. Back to the question BM2. Yeah, bm2.
Speaker 3:BM2. That one looks a little bit more troubling.
Speaker 1:Yeah, BM2,. We went through some shit Like some shit.
Speaker 3:And where are y'all? What are y'all stand now, we good, we co-parent real good.
Speaker 1:I might even want to hang on back here and not like that. She's a good mom. Yeah, she's a very good mom. She do her thing. You know what I'm saying. She hard working. You know what I'm saying. She always makes somebody drive the street Like that's just one thing I don't ever have to worry about. You know what I'm saying. And we just keep that open communication. As far as our daughter, you know what I'm saying. Whatever she need, she get it. Call me, I got it. You know what I'm saying. It's like we call each other for.
Speaker 3:Do y'all have any personal relations? No, you don't do that. You and BM1, neither.
Speaker 1:No BM1, she got her whole man. She go with him for like five years. I follow him too. He a respectable dude. You know what I'm saying. I met him a few times. My daughter like him. You know they been together for I can't say nothing about that. They tied in. You know what I'm saying. They're a good dude. You don't treat my daughter no type of way. Anytime I see him is all I love. You know what I'm saying. It is what it is. I'm happy that she's happy. You know what I'm saying. It's better for my daughter. You don't want me personally. I don't want to see a big mom fucked up. Yeah for sure. And you know what I'm saying. I want y'all to be happy for them.
Speaker 2:Yeah for sure we got nothing to do with me personally.
Speaker 1:For sure, I don't care, because whatever you got going on in y'all relationship, don't got nothing to do with my kid. That's what I always say.
Speaker 3:Like so you got two BMs, yeah, and you have a separate woman in your life. That's your lady now, right? And you said y'all are approaching two years. Yeah, all right, two years faithful. Yeah. Now my question to you two, gentlemen how, how do you deal with the temptation of Perhaps a beautiful woman offering herself to you?
Speaker 1:Wow, that's simple. They ain't her, they ain't her, they ain't who I'm with. I mean that temptation. You gotta be a man about your shit.
Speaker 3:So there's nothing that would make you, either one of you, be able to step out.
Speaker 4:Nah, like I don't see that happening, like I always say, no One night.
Speaker 3:No connections, no ties, no phone numbers nothing.
Speaker 4:Because it's like, even if nobody knows, I know for real, I know it sounds like cliche and everything but it's like my conscience really be fucking me up for real. And it's like, if I know you don't deserve that, why would I do you like that? Yeah, sure, like it ain't right. Like I'm one of those people who really stand out, like I'm gonna treat you how I wanna be treated, type shit. Like if I wanna want you to do that to me, I'm not gonna do you like that. Like I'm not really stand out. Now, that's always been. You know how it been.
Speaker 1:I always been a person that was like I like to compete in. Like. You know what I'm saying, I like to compete in it. I don't know if it's age or whatever. I just always been mature at a young age and like and then now it's like it's just locked in and solidified, like it's just. That's just what it is Like. I'm not having to compare and being faithful. Like you know what I'm saying, I didn't did that. Like I didn't. You know what I'm saying, I never cheated.
Speaker 1:I've been single, I've never cheated and your whole life Never cheated.
Speaker 4:Never cheated, probably when I was younger, like, just like I said, you know, being young, awesome, young and dumb shit, royalty, just a big thing.
Speaker 3:Yeah, like, in all aspects. Now, royalty is a huge thing to me too. Like, yeah, certainly, loyalty is certainly a huge thing to me too, but I'm absolutely cheating on a majority of females that I've been with and I wouldn't say, I wouldn't say that that's a shot at a question at my loyalty or anything like that. How would you feel? Would you feel like that's a like I'm not loyal because I'm? I had infidelities.
Speaker 1:See, see, that's that's, that's hard, that's hard, but that does play a part of loyalty as well. Mm-hmm, you know what I'm saying, but like it's not, you know what I'm saying. That's not a cliche Cause. I hate when they say man gonna be man. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. But situations do happen. You don't know what's going on in somebody's relationship and you don't know what that man is thinking about. Yeah, for sure you don't know what that man is going through. For sure you don't know what that woman is doing or not doing that home that making this man have to go that way. You know what I'm saying For real, either, and I'm gonna say this ladies, nobody looking at me like oh, are you trying to control that? I'm just saying people are people. You know what I'm saying. They people go through shit and I'm not condoning that. I'm saying that's okay, it's not okay, but I truly just believe that Men aren't monogamous creatures.
Speaker 4:I don't know honestly, and it's like I feel that I have friends who you know they're poly and everything like that, and it's like teach us all Like I respect it. You know, if you can tell the people that you're with that, you know this is how I rock, and everything like that. But I respect it. Like, as long as you're not like, yeah, telling you that. Oh yeah, I'm with monogamy. It is that the third one. Blah, blah behind your back I'm doing all this shit. Yeah, that's called deception.
Speaker 4:Yeah, exactly, but you know, if you can keep it real with the people that you're messing with and let them know they're like, yeah, teach us all. Like, do your thing, I respect it. Well, like, when it comes to monogamy or not anything like that, I just feel like, like I said, like, teach us all. Like me personally, I'm just like my brother in the way that I've always wanted to be in a relationship, Like I'd rather be in a relationship. Yeah, I'd rather be in a relationship.
Speaker 4:I feel like it's dope going home to my best friend every single day and like we can, whether it's watching TV or chilling, just chatting, we can just be chatting for hours and shit. Just, you know, I've been. Are you trying to go through a phone? No, have you ever? Probably when I was younger. I don't know some shit, but no, like, I feel like your shit is your shit, my shit is my shit. Like, especially if I've got a reason to be looking to your shit and everything Like if I'm with you, I'm with you because I trust you. Okay, Kind of thing. Like if I don't trust you, I'm not going to waste my time and be with you Now 13 years deep Does your girl go out?
Speaker 4:Not much If she does like, probably like with her sister or something like that, Probably like one of her best friends. What?
Speaker 3:average night. What time is your lady coming home from work?
Speaker 4:She works at home. So um, just like five, Like she's done at five.
Speaker 3:So she's done at five. Yo, I'm trying to create a scenario in my head. Talk to me. Talk to me. I have to understand your lifestyle and your, your situation in order to create a scenario that works Gotcha.
Speaker 4:So for the most part, to draw you like a picture, we're homebodies for the most part, okay. So like we literally like attached at the hip type shit, like if I'm somewhere, most likely you're going to see her and vice versa.
Speaker 3:Do you work from home?
Speaker 4:No, what time do you get home? It all depends on what time of the day it is, whatever time it is.
Speaker 3:Let's say, you get home Tuesday night 7.30. There's no kids, because you don't have any. It's just you and Shorty and the crib. Yeah, on an average night that you're coming home, what can you expect upon walking in the door?
Speaker 4:Um, for one, her to be rolling up a piece for us at the end of the day, for us to wind down. Um, good energy, she's always good energy.
Speaker 3:She's always expecting of you. She knows you're coming. She knows I'm coming. Okay, yeah, you come home. There's a man in the house, uh-huh, they're watching TV drinking wine. They're unaware that he's in the house. You come home. How would that play out? That's crazy.
Speaker 4:Uh, you could have bucked like.
Speaker 3:All clothes are on. Nothing inappropriate is in front of you.
Speaker 4:So my first question to her is going to be who is this man? Okay, she's my best friend. I know you're best friends, so that's not the case. And, um, I'm going to try to keep things cool. I don't always want to, you know, go to a violent round. Just you know, walk in, rush on the dude and everything like that. I'm going to fill out the situation Like, if I don't know the dude, that's already a big red flag for me Because she knows anyone that I mess with and everything like that, and vice versa. But it fills the situation like that and it all depends on his energy, like, if he's cool, I could just get him up out of there. But if I'm feeling like it's something between y'all or something like that, like you looking at me like I almost shouldn't be here in my own shit, then like I'm going to have to hook off on you or something like that, I'm going to have to drag you out of my shit.
Speaker 3:Do you think that you would be able to continue forward with the relationship after that? No, under no circumstances. So that's an automatic termination, absolutely. How about you?
Speaker 1:Well, like you find out a dude in the house and I don't know, yeah, but yeah, that's over with. You know what I'm saying? That's over with, because anybody that come over to my house, I should know who come and know who.
Speaker 1:She tells you directly there was nothing inappropriate done, hey it's already inappropriate that he in my house and I ain't know about that he's sitting here drinking wine with you. I don't know who this nigga, you ain't never tell me about him. You ain't not a cousin or nothing, not a call or text or who. You know what I'm saying? No, I never seen him before. Yeah, this is our house, so anybody going through our house I should know who you should know.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you know what I'm saying so yeah, I stand on principles yeah, absolutely Always.
Speaker 1:You got to Absolutely. I thought that's how I survive to this age, and I don't even just saying I'm 31,. To me that's a lot. It's from all my friends and cousins, family members I lost. I ain't even making it to this age, whether it's from the streets or whatever. It's just it feel different. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:Where I differentiate in that situation. I've been in that situation. Right, right, I would go mind my business. I would go right in my room, watch TV by myself and continue my night and let's see how this plays out. I heard you. Okay, you got a lot of patience. I'm a different breed. Yeah, you got a lot of patience. Not for real. I want to see what's naturally going to take place. I'm going to greet the gentleman. Hey, what's going on? How you doing? Okay, I see how, watching TV. Let me get up out of here. I'm going to go in my room. I'll see you out later. You're going to see how this plays out, Girl.
Speaker 1:how does it play out?
Speaker 3:Whatever it plays out, it goes left and they do what they do out there. I hope they have a great night. I hope they have a great night. I know I could live with that. I heard you. I would never stop a man or a woman from doing what they truly desire to do. So if this is my girl and I'm with her for five years and we go to a Chris Brown concert and Chris Brown calls her on stage and he gives her the opportunity to come backstage and go on a tour bus and stuff like that, by all means do you. I would never stop you. But you making that decision shows me where I stand. So you make the decision for me.
Speaker 3:Essentially, you know what I'm saying. That's my approach to life. I respect that. I respect that. That's why I've been single over 10 years. I heard you. I heard you. I heard you For real. Yeah, that's why I've been single over 10 years. I can't secure a relationship with a female because I guess in a sense, I'm too selfish. These bitches be wanting you to put them above everything and honestly, bitch not coming before this podcast, she not coming before my daughter, she not coming before my mom, she not coming before my peace. You know what I'm saying. I'm making that very clear to anybody that I deal with.
Speaker 1:You do that in a relationship too, I make that clear as well.
Speaker 4:That peace thing is big bro, that is huge man.
Speaker 3:How often do you find your lady disturbing your peace?
Speaker 4:Never. I'm big on that, bro. My whole thing is I talk to my brother about this all the time.
Speaker 4:I went through a period in my life where I was thinking about myself, when I was like, if I was to walk into a room, type, shit, would I like me? And I was like, damn, I probably wouldn't. That's a good question. So I had to really work on myself. These are the things that I really want to do. Should I be acting this way? Should I be responding this kind of way? So on and so forth. And through that process I found my peace. I found what makes me happy, what keeps me good, so I protect that at all costs. So it doesn't matter whether it's like, if anyone's trying to just interrupt my shit, take me out of that peaceful place, I have to just squash that. You got it, bro. Like whether it's family, whether it's friends, it doesn't matter who it may be. You can be important to me. But it's like, if you love me, if you want me to be good, you want to fuck up my peace? Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 1:Absolutely Talk to me, Ace. I think that's probably the biggest thing for me.
Speaker 3:It don't sound like there's no toxicity in y'all relationships. It sounds like everything is love and peace in y'all relationships.
Speaker 1:It wasn't shit, it's not, it's not. My relationship is definitely not toxic, and I think it's one of the relationships where, like, toxicity didn't happen you know what I'm saying but it wasn't like detrimental to where we were going to leave each other. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's just like you know, we live together, we've been together.
Speaker 3:How long y'all been living together?
Speaker 1:It's about to be like a year, yeah, a year. So y'all started dating.
Speaker 3:Y'all were together for a year and then y'all moved in. Okay yeah.
Speaker 1:It's like you're getting to know each other. So it was like you don't see certain shit as you don't like certain behaviors or what. You know what I'm saying. So it was like my mom always say this to me all the time. She said when I first moved in with my first big mom, she was like you're going to finally get to see, say you think you know somebody now you live with them. You really going to get to know each other?
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, for sure. But she always told me you may not even like. You may not even like them sometimes, but is this who you choose to be with? Is you really in the fight for that? Is it real? That's how she always bring it up.
Speaker 3:Yeah, my answers be no, I don't be willing to fight for that shit, I'm not that.
Speaker 1:I mean when you back to social you feel like you must have went through something. Oh yeah, for sure that means you. That put you in that state, that have you like that for a few years.
Speaker 3:My BM is like future nigga, so that happened.
Speaker 4:But it's like I feel like because, at the same time, why you got to fight for something that's good anyway, like why am I fighting?
Speaker 3:Yeah, exactly. Yeah, like what there we?
Speaker 4:go Talk to him. Anyway, happy talking to you from dang comparison guys. Told to me that's why maybe I should. We don't. There's no like toxicity or anything.
Speaker 3:It shouldn't be a fight. You shouldn't be fighting for your relationship Literally not. If you are, you need to let that motherfucker go. Yes, sir, yes, sir, for sure, all right. So what are some plans y'all have upcoming for 2024?
Speaker 4:For me. Um, I've got a few things. Just I'm starting my LLC. See for what Business has grown when it comes to training. Have a lot of clients.
Speaker 3:So when you say training, exactly what do you train for those that don't know?
Speaker 4:I'm a personal trainer, but, um, the the most work that I do is like for my strength client, so I'm a strength coach as well and I do a lot of rehab work. Okay, so I have clients anywhere from 18 years old Up to, you know, 65 years old, 18 being the age requirement. No, no, okay, no, because, um, we've did um classes with, like, middle schoolers and everything like that softball, soccer, baseball, basketball, whatever it may be. But, like my niche, like what I really really messed with, is the rehab. Okay, I work on like older people, like I've been able to bend their knees in a while and I, you know, put them on to some Movements. You know, um, some studies that I've found really work, and you do that solely by yourself. Yes, okay, yep, and I work out of a gym. Now it's called last rep, fitness. Okay, last rep, and where's that? And he's Hartford.
Speaker 3:Okay, yeah yeah, ace, what you got going on for 2024?.
Speaker 1:Um 2024, this time for me to put my foot down to do this. I had this been playing since last year. I'm hitting the ground running with it. I'm about to start my vending machine business.
Speaker 3:Okay, you know saying have you actually started the process, or is that something you're?
Speaker 1:looking into. I'm about to start the process real soon, within like the next couple months. I'm just gonna paperwork ready. It's like a logistic and the business right paperwork what kind?
Speaker 3:of better machines.
Speaker 1:Are you interested in working with anything? I'm looking at the demographic of where People are, like there's a gym, like a private gym or like businesses, that it's a lot of foot traffic. I'm trying to put my vending machine in there because it could potentially Make revenue. You know saying yes, and it can cater to the audience. Like you know is this is a sports gym that don't have been in the same. What sports drinks in there? You know saying yeah, for sure, he's not 24, seven or however long you keep the you a stinker. Hey, no, not really. Okay, I tell anybody. The only thing I wear is Friday.
Speaker 3:It's uptown, yeah, I know I seen Recently on social media a Sneaker vending machine. Oh, that's tough Actually, see what I was and that that shit was hard like let's talk, but it's like you don't always get the sneakers. So it's kind of like a game yeah, and I got you, if you are. I guess if you win the game where you do it correctly, go through the steps correctly, then you get an exclusive pair of sneakers, or mad nigga is not winning the game. So, yeah, the vending machine just be eating.
Speaker 4:I'm saying true, I'm gonna lose niggas. I would never touch that game, yeah me too.
Speaker 3:I see them all the time and like.
Speaker 4:I don't believe in fucking my shit. That has like a 50-50 chance. Yeah, you lose, and nigga you losing every single time.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I'll mess with those like blackjack against the computer, exactly, come on, I don't know shit like that no.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna like bet now. You guys gambling now, yeah, like.
Speaker 4:And I'll let us shit nigga. I'm gonna say I do a little bit here and here, but like different, yeah, man, it's nice. No, I'm operating out of, I'm operating on the Paul A's brown. That's what we begin fucked up in a parley. What's the motion on?
Speaker 3:1500 Off of a $5 bet. Oh, yeah it was a 13, like Paul A. Oh yeah, you can only gamble in the playoffs. I don't really be doing shit during the season because I'm not. I'm not so invested, but I'm I'm invested in the playoffs, like Every sport soccer, basketball, that's what you get it hockey All that, in fact, so you telling me a little bit about a clothing line to yeah, I've been.
Speaker 1:I've been wanting to do that too. I want to start my own clothing line. I don't got a name for it yet but, as I said, ace Ventures. That's my, that's my LC, so that's gonna be a part of Everything that you do, everything I'm doing. Yeah, I branch out. So the thing is just more me pump my mind to Everything that I want to do, like it's like fuck, it is either you do it or you don't do.
Speaker 3:I'm doing it, so I'm going, like I said, in the ground running, doing you have a A deadline set that you would like to have everything in motion by.
Speaker 1:I say honestly, by summer summer time.
Speaker 3:Why so late? Why so long? Why so long is just because I know life, because my thing is To. I have a quote by L E Carter's market. I mean L E Carter's denim and all, and I also have like a Lifestyle marijuana company. You know I do a high-end Infused meals to stuff like that, like Pineapple bowls, lobster tails and shit like that over the fuse bird. So, um, I I found in my entrepreneurial career that when you delay things, like, let's say, for instance, you saying oh, I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna do it by the summer.
Speaker 1:No, it's gonna be done by some. Not even done, it's gonna be already in motion. Yeah.
Speaker 3:What's stopping you from doing it now?
Speaker 1:life. Yeah, I got a lot of shit going on at once. Okay, I'm saying so. It's not like I'm saying, it's not something I'm trying to push what's going on. I got, no, my daughter's birthday coming. Okay, you know, I'm saying responsibility.
Speaker 3:Responsibilities. Okay, yeah, I try to take you out. You need money to make money exactly, you know, sam.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I work at a. You gonna make nothing, not even really make what you should be. Yeah, so you know, I already know this is a process, but, like I said, that's my deadline and they can even be before.
Speaker 3:It'd be hard. It'd be hard to survive out here. How do you survive? Just working? Is that enough?
Speaker 1:I get I say like this I Get what I need, I don't. I don't never really get what I want. Yeah, yeah, that's what keep my, keep me afloat. Okay, you know saying I gotta get what I need, I gotta do what I need to do, can't just go do what I want, I don't got nothing. You know saying like you want to let, like that at this age Kids or kids, oh for that. You know I'm saying it do get rough, it do get rough, it get hard, but gotta manage, you know you gotta hold on like you.
Speaker 1:that's a I'm real big with prayer, do you?
Speaker 3:believe that Shorty's the one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, honestly, and we're not reason. I say that it's because, like you said, with peace, like always, one of the women I was a nurturer. Yeah, yeah, sure, they don't got nothing to do it gift thing and do it's a nurturer. It's you being able to listen to that? You really ears open, hard open. Yeah, listen to everything I'm saying. You take me, you love me for who I am, good and bad, you know saying, but the good always our way to bad. Do you see marriage in your future? I'll never be honest, I know. I said honestly my second baby mom, I, we got engaged, I Proposed her and after our situation and what happened with us in my house, I don't never want to get married. What was it that happened? You cheated. It's not a cheat. Okay, I was trying to catch you. They're just my only is this person I want to? You don't want to Get deep into that, okay, okay.
Speaker 3:Okay. So whatever the situation was that caused y'all to to not get married, yeah, okay. So you said you don't see marriage necessarily in the future with this one.
Speaker 1:No, I say that I'm just saying, like that's how I felt before. Yeah, okay, I mean I'm over to it. You know what I'm over to it? What if I that she have kids? Yeah, she did, she has. She has three.
Speaker 3:So it's five all together. Yeah, do y'all want a kid between the two of y'all?
Speaker 1:We talked about it, but then we talked about it and he was like nah, we good.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah, yeah, that was the odd trip, isn't it Me personally, I went to him with a kid.
Speaker 1:She felt the same way. So y'all good, that's what I'm saying we good, yeah, y'all good.
Speaker 3:That's what's up.
Speaker 4:That's what's up. That's what's up bro.
Speaker 1:My second bro, it's my baby. She, she drive me crazy already, Like. So it's like it's the second one, it's the middle one, Like that's not even the middle one, but it's just that's the last one. Yeah, I went on, okay, and I said I got to keep saying that it was 8031. I want to live life, I want to get my. This is real.
Speaker 3:And how is it?
Speaker 1:merging the families. It's good I got, I got two girls. The girls get along with the three kids. Yeah, she has two boys and she has a girl, her daughter, her daughter, my oldest daughter. They're around like the same age and my youngest is three and her youngest is four and her middle one is seven. No, he's not four, he's five, sorry. Well, yeah, they are, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's. It should be fun here All right Now, here we go.
Speaker 3:I can change the tone a little bit. Has there ever been a situation with the kids her kids and your kids where you had to choose sides or maybe, like you know, break up a fight and scold your kid because your kid was in the wrong? Oh yeah.
Speaker 1:I was kind of I'm a big advocate for her.
Speaker 3:I don't shine, so you don't show no favoritism.
Speaker 1:No, it's. It can't be. It can't be. That's not fair. You're going to change all of y'all the same. Change all of y'all the same.
Speaker 3:So you don't think that your daughter would see it like I'm your daughter? Why am I getting treated the same as him? What?
Speaker 1:I mean the same as far as like how like I said, how I treat my daughter, I'm going to treat her kids like how I treat mine. It's like so. It's not about love it's nothing but love.
Speaker 1:So if I'm feeling to see in the situation where you're wrong, whether it's in my daughter or not, I'm going to scold you too. Like you know what I'm saying, I'm letting her know my, my, my oldest, she's about to be 11 next week and we can have she knows, like you know what I'm saying. Like she'll do certain things, or what day, huh.
Speaker 3:What number she's at 22nd. Oh, the 22nd. Why is it 26?
Speaker 1:Oh, word, what's that Both of what, aquarius, yeah, I'm going to say. You know she, I say certain things. We have a constant. Like my oldest, our bond is is different, like that's my baby, that's my first, so I'm saying so. And, once again, like I raised her, I always talk to her as a, as a person, like how me and you talk yeah, obviously not with the language or stuff, but like how baby, I never baby talk.
Speaker 1:So her vocabulary that she got older was was on point, like everything, every every year she gets to a month, like she getting a war. So she had her class with grades. You know what I'm saying. So it just come from me, her mom, or you know there's us teaching her stuff, or just the way I talk to her, like our bond is crazy. So she know if, if daddy got to say something to you, I got to scold you, you know that you was wrong. It's I don't, I don't pick sides. You know what I'm saying. But if my daughter is, is in the right, yes, I'm going to pick that side. Yeah, and as a, you know, as my girlfriend, she's going to do the same shit as you should. And even with that that don't, it's no bad blood with that.
Speaker 1:It can't be. Yeah, it can't be.
Speaker 3:That's, that's. That's weird. I mean, that sounds, that sounds good on your end, because it's not like that in every household, of course not, and most households is not like that where y'all could just uh, uniting, unite, and there'd be no bad blood, like you know what I'm saying. Like, yeah, I could name several situations I don't want to get too deep into names or anything like that but just uh, kids merging in the household and you know, like step dads or step moms picking sides and things like that, even even that creating conflict within the relationship between them two, like so much happens, so much conflict between them and the relationship that, like kids end up having to leave, will be rearranged and situated, you know, and things like that. So, with the kids that you deal with, the five kids that you deal with, they all range and ages, yeah, are they, um, are they teaching them about gender fluidity in school and stuff like that? Like, uh, if a boy in school feels like he is a little girl, the teachers encourage them.
Speaker 1:You are, you are a girl. No, we don't care, we don't care.
Speaker 3:So y'all have a traditional household in terms of the boys, or boys the girls or girls.
Speaker 1:And like, for example, my girl, her, her, her kid's father he's not really in the picture like that, so she has two boys. So, like me, being in the household is a little different. Like I'm giving them structure, yeah, I'm giving them morals, you know what I'm saying. So there's certain things that they thought they can do before. I'm not allowing that now, like you know what I'm saying, it's not even allowing it, just showing them different. Like that's not right. Yeah, you're not doing that. Okay. So they know what a man, what a man's man is. I'm in the house, so you see it, he's in your face, so it was me. It mean, I don't see that ever strain any other way. You know what I'm saying. Like, as you, it's right here, you know what.
Speaker 1:I'm saying and I'm open to talk to you about anything, ask me anything and I always told him, I told him my girl when we first got together, I'm like you know, I want to meet, even though the his father, I'm gonna say I say it's father, the father piece of shit, it's just one of his pieces of shit. You know what I'm saying? He ain't even what are they even talking about? Like he's just piece of shit. Piece of shit, dude. But I always told him like, regardless of who he is, I still in the mean cause I'm being around his kids and that's that's honorable, you have to.
Speaker 1:You have to, cause I want the same respect with mines. That's honorable, you have to. And I don't even care, like I said, I don't care what type of nigga he is. That's cool. As long as you know who's around your kids, A hundred percent. A hundred percent, regardless of how you feel about her or whatever you feel about me, cause you feel about her, whatever the case may be, you know your kids is in. They ain't good hands. You know what I'm saying. They gotta stand up nigga in the house, Like you know what I'm saying. They good, so we're we don't even gotta be friends.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I bet him he's a weird dude. That's all I can say. I don't want to. I'm not a nigga that really stand up trying to bash me, but he know who he is. You know what I'm saying and I know who he is. It is what it is.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it'd be like that. You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1:It's like the father's like home. I just don't respect Like and I'm like I said, let me get off him Just father's in general, that move like that. I don't respect that. You know what I'm saying, especially boys. What do you call him a deadbeat? Definitely for sure. What's a deadbeat? A deadbeat is a person, is a man, I can't even say a man.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you can't say a man. You can't say a man. It's not limited to a sex.
Speaker 1:I say, I say I say a guy that you have kids. You're not taking your responsibility as far as mentally being there for them, emotionally being there for them and financially being there for them. You're not available at all. So you know what? I'm saying You're not being, you're not available at all. You're not, and for anything, they have going on and they like they're absent.
Speaker 3:So if a nigga is there, if a nigga is there, he's there. He's there every day. He's available mentally, he's available emotionally, he's available to take the kids whatever they gotta do, do stuff like that, but he's not available financially because he's broke. Does that make him a bad dad?
Speaker 1:No, no, and the reason I said I'm saying when I'm at financially is obviously when you get to a certain point in your life to where you're okay financially to take care of your kids, but you're working towards that, that's different, yeah, but just cause you don't have it at that point in the time that I don't want to meet you by the father Okay, cause it's the times when I didn't have it, yeah, and I keep it at thousands. It's the times when I didn't have it. But my daughter no, daddy was there I'm taking her every weekend. I'm doing when I do get money, I'm taking her out. We going out to do something yeah, and I try my best to give something.
Speaker 1:I mean, I have been the best at financial sometimes. Yeah, you know what I'm saying and I'll be the first to say that that don't make me a bad father. Yeah, my baby mother know that. Okay, she know what type of father and my daughter know what type of dad I am. You know what I'm saying. Our bond is ridiculous, like that's my baby, and then you got two kids, so you got money pooling from all the time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I said I was going to go back to men. Yeah, especially now, especially with another kid you know what I'm saying. Like my last baby. Like it's like you said it does come from service, but it's manageable, like cause it's like I said. Prayer is another thing. I pray all the time. Like so I'm very spiritual to a lot of shit. You know what I'm saying. Yeah, it get me through a lot. You know what I'm saying. And it's like it's a balance. You know what I'm saying. It's a mind state, it's a mentality. I got to get it and I got to stay right here. I got to stay afloat. You know what I'm saying. Make the shit work If I fall off you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna get back up and be all right. You know what I'm saying. But it ain't going to be just a huge fall off because when I was doing it right, the first time I was able to get to where I was at. You know what I'm saying. It's like to pick back up.
Speaker 3:I think getting those businesses started and generating some more income would definitely put you in a better position in 2024. Yeah, everything.
Speaker 1:So making the moves. I'm real good now, but you know I can't wait until I get right, right, you know what I'm saying. I'm saying that's what. I care about. I know this shit gonna be crazy. It's not just, it's never just about me, like it's never just about me.
Speaker 1:Of course I don't get right, but it's everyone I love that I care about around me. You know what I'm saying. Even people I fuck with Anybody. Like you say your podcast, like you got your own shit you first told me about. I was happy about that shit. I didn't even know him. You know what I'm saying. I'm like, yeah, that's tough. No, he definitely.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying he definitely was a supporter from day one. I could definitely.
Speaker 1:I was waiting for mine to be. I'm like I'm gonna get one. I had to wait, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:I see him all the time. So it was like it's nothing, it's just a time and place for everything. And then this has worked perfect because I had the time for it. You know what I'm saying? I'm not a type of person to give you a time and be like, yeah, I'm gonna pull up and I will show up. You know what I'm saying? I ain't gonna do that. I'm gonna honor that because I ain't gonna waste your time. Your time is precious to your mother. You know what I'm saying? God, I shoulda do it.
Speaker 3:Just to elaborate on that note a little bit, there's been quite a few people that actually did do just that, precisely that Waste my fucking time. Like I've scheduled interviews and you know, walkthrough sessions and stuff like that. And yeah, bro, like I'm telling you right now, if we schedule a rehearsal Right, and the rehearsal is for three o'clock, right At 3.30, not even At 3.15, there's no longer any recording. Like, even if you walk in, you could walk in right now at 3.15. We're no longer recording.
Speaker 3:What's gonna happen is a conversation is gonna take place and this conversation is gonna be me letting you know that we're not recording, because I'm a prompt individual and if I said we're starting at 3 o'clock, then I'm expecting to start at 3 o'clock, not 3.01, not 3.05, not 3.15. And if you disrespect me by coming at 3.15, 3.16, 3.17, like I said, it's just gonna be a conversation and then, moving forward, you'll be removed, you'll be restricted access and don't even hit me up, don't even contact me, none of that. Just let it go. The first time you do contact me, I'm gonna block you and that's just that. Oh yeah, I'm gonna work, bro, I'm gonna give you a break. Don't waste my time. I'm not seeing anything, don't waste. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:I got a feeling man, I got a feeling. Don't waste my fucking time, Please like that's a huge pet peeve of mine.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying. Like I put a lot into this. I do a lot of research. You know, when someone tells me that coming up, I start investigating who you are, I start contacting your followers and asking them questions about you. Like I'm for real with the journalism I don't play, but, um, I'm not gonna say anything. But, um, we gonna start wrapping up. Y'all got any ending messages you wanna give to your people and let them know who you are. To wrap up anything.
Speaker 4:You know, just um, if anyone's looking for any kind of training, whether it's you guys wanna lose weight, you guys wanna feel better about yourself, you wanna get stronger, you guys, you know, have a bad back, your knees been aching, angles are bothering you necks are hurting, anything like that. You know, reach out to me. You can reach out to me on Instagram underscore yellah6, underscore on Instagram. Or you can reach out through the website at Last Rep and put Last Rep Fitness into Google. It'll pull up the website, pull up our Instagram page, facebook page, everything.
Speaker 3:And everything will also be tagged in this interview also. Yes sir, yes sir.
Speaker 1:Well, all I gotta say is look out for my A-S-M-A adventures, my vending machine business coming out and a lot of my other stuff coming out too. You know what I'm saying, and my message to everybody is to stay prayed up, and I honestly mean that. Stay prayed up with everything you do, with anything good or bad. You know what I'm saying. Stay prayed up, stay motivated, don't give up on nothing. You know what I'm saying. I know it's cliche and it's easier said than done, but trust me, it's. Since you're specially connected, you know, with G-O-D, you know what I mean. You know what I mean. Stay prayed up, man. Keep your head up everything you do. Yes, sir, I love you.
Speaker 3:Yes, sir, all right. So, um, yeah, for those listening that are tuned in to the Elliott Carter Show um, yeah, elliott Carter, uh Storytime with Elliott Carter is something I'm gonna continue doing. We're gonna finish up this uh Storytime with Will Fonds I'll be wrapping that up today and, um, yeah, you guys just tap in. Elliott Carter Show is something offered exclusively on Facebook. Send me a friend request and I'm gonna send you a DM. You have to identify yourself. If you don't, you won't be given access. So, uh, yeah, y'all tune in and just uh be on the lookout for more Storytime with Elliott Carter. I'll be, uh, starting to incorporate that into this podcast as well, so I'll be sharing the stories, uh from the story on this platform here too. So report a lot from the gutter. Thank you, yela and Ace, for a beautiful interview and uh, yeah, they'll be back shortly.