Romancing Diversity and Overcoming Adversity: Dannie Pink's Personal Voyage through Work, Sickle Cell, and Love

Get ready to dive into the captivating world of modern romance and personal struggles in this thought-provoking episode. Join me as I sit down with Dannie Pink, a CNA worker who shares her personal journey of balancing work, family, and dating. From testing the waters with potential partners to navigating trust issues and the challenges of living with sickle cell disease, Dannie's candid insights provide a rich tapestry of experiences that resonate with the highs and lows of everyday life. Get ready for an eye-opening conversation that will leave you reflecting on your own relationships and choices.

In the first chapter, we get to know Dannie Pink on a personal level. From her role as a CNA worker to her experiences in the modern dating scene, Dannie shares her daily routine and the qualities she values in a partner. Her openness about her bisexuality and willingness to date across different ethnicities adds a layer of complexity to her dating life, particularly when it comes to her interactions with Caribbean men. Join us as we explore the intricacies of Dannie's dating preferences and how she navigates the ever-changing landscape of modern romance.

The second chapter takes a deeper dive into the challenges of trust in relationships and the consequences of reckless sexual behavior. We hear personal stories of infidelity uncovered through snooping on a partner's phone, as well as the emotional toll of contracting sexually transmitted diseases. Additionally, we shed light on the struggles faced by those living with sickle cell disease, discussing the impact it has on daily life and relationships. Prepare for a candid and heartfelt conversation that tackles the tough topics head-on.

In the final chapter of this episode, we delve into the personal choices around body piercings and the ways they can impact relationships and one's own sense of identity. We hear a personal account of the emotional complexities of a 'situationship' and the importance of moving forward from past relationships. From tongue rings to the quest for meaningful connections, this chapter explores the intersections of personal adornment, intimacy, and personal growth. Join us as we discuss the intricacies of navigating relationships and self-discovery in a world full of choices and challenges.

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:11

Every time we late they be stinky. All my hoes clean. Nigga's squeaky by evolution and I'm talking weaker, Tellin' she gone by how she greedy. Yo baby, that a pussy. He ain't no man. If he was in a spot I'd make him so run. Say you getting money? Nigga, show some. Since everybody love him, let's see who posts him. Boogers in the chain. Yeah, it's not. I spend real estate funds on a watch. I'm on jean block pussy where it's hot. Nigga jumped inside my car and he got pop Don't be playin' all that tees and got me raw Girl, you movin' way more wacky than my walk.

Speaker 2: 0:54

I wear a Nike tech cause I don't like to shop Got a titties done.

Speaker 1: 0:58

I shit on wet old bra. Turn your phone off when you get inside my car. Have some etiquette. Lil bitch with a star Hair so good she could eat ice cream with a straw. I'm too further to be gone in your bra when we fuckin' weak it stuck cause I'm a dog. If yo ex caught one more time, I'm gettin' a bra.

Speaker 2: 1:19

I write raps and give out smoke like it's my job.

Speaker 1: 1:22

All these hoes pass, burn they down to char Every time we late. They be sneaky, they be shaky. I'm a hoes clean, clean, nigga. Squeaky, nigga, squeaky, bye.

Speaker 3: 1:34

Reporting live from the motherfuckin' gutters your boy Elliot Carter, here with Danny Pink. Danny, talk to him.

Speaker 2: 1:42

Hey, it's Danny Pink. Miss Pink, if you nasty, you feel me. You can find me on Instagram at the real Miss Pink.

Speaker 3: 1:53

Okay.

Speaker 2: 1:55

Yeah, that's about it.

Speaker 3: 1:57

Miss Pink, if you nasty, what is that? Like a OnlyFans advertisement.

Speaker 2: 2:02

Come on now. You know I don't do.

Speaker 3: 2:03

OnlyFans. That's crazy. So what you mean if you nasty?

Speaker 2: 2:10

Just my little tagline.

Speaker 3: 2:12

Okay, I like that. So what do you do for a living?

Speaker 2: 2:18

I'm a PCA worker right now.

Speaker 3: 2:21

What's PCA mean?

Speaker 2: 2:22

So kind of like a CNA, but not really, and right now I get paid through the state to take care of my own grandmother. So that's what I do right now. I was doing it before yeah, full time. Was doing it before. I also pick up work from home, jobs here and there as well, but right now I'm just focused on that.

Speaker 3: 2:49

Okay, so what's your day to day like right now, 2024?

Speaker 2: 2:56

It's pretty chill. I try to stick with my morning routine, so I do that and it's like I work from home, so I don't really have an exact time that I need to start, so it's pretty easy going. I'm usually done with work by 2.33. Simple, honestly.

Speaker 3: 3:17

And 2.33 is when you start your day.

Speaker 2: 3:22

My personal day, your personal day. Like what I gotta do.

Speaker 3: 3:25

And what's your personal day to day looking like?

Speaker 2: 3:28

It depends. Are you single? I am, I'm single.

Speaker 3: 3:31

Are you dating?

Speaker 2: 3:34

Hmm, I don't know, dating would be the word. Oh yeah, I guess.

Speaker 3: 3:41

So what if dating is not the word? What would be the more accurate word for what you're doing?

Speaker 2: 3:48

I'm testing the waters.

Speaker 3: 3:51

What does that mean?

Speaker 2: 3:53

Kind of just. You know, I feel like with dating you are specifically going on dates regularly. You know I'm not going on dates regularly. I'm, you know, I talk to people here and there, like I'm building bonds with people, but I'm not like dating, like going on dates.

Speaker 3: 4:15

It's not Lincoln or Giz. Yeah, I know, okay, okay, why not? What's holding you back?

Speaker 2: 4:23

I just never really been one of those Like. I feel like in this day and age, dating for a lot of them is come link me, come to my house, and I'm not a pull up type of bitch, I'm just not one of them. So it's like if I was getting more offers to go on actual dates then I would, but I also just have a lot going on myself.

Speaker 2: 4:53

So, I'm just taking it easy, you know, taking it day by day. When it comes to that, I'm not, I'm not pressed when it comes to that.

Speaker 3: 5:00

Okay, so what are you looking for in a man?

Speaker 2: 5:08

Like if I wanted to be in a relationship ideally um, someone who's honest, someone who's driven, who has his own stuff going on. Um, and let me just clarify I'm bisexual, so it's not only men, okay, um, but someone who has their own stuff going on, has their head on their shoulders. Someone who's funny, Um. Someone who's educated, who can stimulate me mentally Um, not going to act like I'm not shallow. Someone who looks good? Um, someone who I feel like I'm on the same page with, who I can depend on. Um Someone reliable.

Speaker 2: 5:59

Exactly Reliable. Definitely someone reliable. That's a must for me.

Speaker 3: 6:05

Okay, um, so what type of men are you typically into?

Speaker 2: 6:11

What type? What do you mean by type? Are we talking looks? Are we talking jobs?

Speaker 3: 6:17

Are we talking we're talking all of that. We're talking looks. We're talking jobs. We're talking age preference, yeah. Ethnicity preference Okay, all of your preferences, what? What's the ideal man for you?

Speaker 2: 6:33

Okay, miss Pink, if you're nasty, right. Um, I would say, well, I love black men, that's just. I see myself ending up with a black man, okay. Um, ethnicity, I don't really necessarily have a preference. Um, I can enjoy when someone is also Caribbean and they get my culture. But also Caribbean men are crazy, so it's not like a deal breaker for me. Um, I would date outside of my race too If they got it like that, you know.

Speaker 3: 7:11

Um, so do you see yourself fucking with a white boy?

Speaker 2: 7:14

I would, you could. It just has to be a special kind of white boy, okay.

Speaker 3: 7:20

I could jack that. Yeah, I could jack that, I could jack that, what else?

Speaker 2: 7:26

Um, I was going somewhere with that and I can't remember what else to say yeah, try to retrieve it, try to recover it.

Speaker 2: 7:37

Yeah, looks wise. I would prefer a black man, but it's not a must. Um, my type. I really love locks. Love a man with locks. Okay, um, again, someone who I could laugh with. Someone who's fun Um, I'm into that. Someone who has their own stuff going on. Like I said, I'm, I'm like, really I'm not a clingy type of person. Um, so I like when the person that I'm dating or talking to has their own life.

Speaker 3: 8:20

Yeah, for sure.

Speaker 2: 8:22

So they're not just up under me all the time.

Speaker 3: 8:26

You like a strong sense of independence.

Speaker 2: 8:28

Definitely and someone who, um, who trusts me as well, to like because I feel like with some guys like the trust issues can be a bit much Like. I'm the type of person I need my freedom, so you have to trust me to be able to continue living my life the way that I was before you, just with you in it.

Speaker 3: 8:53

Yeah, you know that's fine. So if you're dealing with one individual man, does that stop you from being friends with other men dealing with?

Speaker 2: 9:08

what is dealing with me Like are we talking? Are we dating? Uh, are we committed? Y'all are fucking Okay, Um whatever comes with that. Um, so that's giving situationship vibes. Um, if we're just fucking, I'm talking to other people I'm. I mean, that's probably the only person, not probably that's the only person I'm fucking, but like I'm talking to other people, seeing what else?

Speaker 3: 9:38

is out there Seeing what else is available. If there's a better situation available for you, right, and if a better situation presents itself, is that something that you would hop on? Um because there's always better.

Speaker 2: 9:54

Of course there's always better I. It really just depends on the type of the person. It depends on, like, the bond that we have. I feel like, yeah, I'm someone else's better that wants to take me out and do this, and that that's cool and everything. But if I feel like I'm like we have a bond, like for me friendship is a big thing. So if I feel like we're like friends beyond the fucking, you know what I mean and I can count on you. I wouldn't be on no grimy shit when it comes to just like all right, like found better next, you know.

Speaker 3: 10:34

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 10:35

So it depends.

Speaker 3: 10:37

Okay, and none of that is currently where you're at right now. Yeah, you're just isolated.

Speaker 2: 10:49

Isolated.

Speaker 3: 10:50

Phone is dry.

Speaker 2: 10:52

Okay, phone's not dry necessarily, but the Gucci's dry, like it's been over a year.

Speaker 3: 11:01

so it's been over a year since you got some dick yeah 495 days.

Speaker 2: 11:07

You just checked Just in case anybody wanted to know, Just in case that wasn't important. I mean, who's counting? But yeah.

Speaker 3: 11:13

Why has it been so long? What is you could claim celibacy at this point.

Speaker 2: 11:20

It would be abstinence. People love to use celibacy, but I'm not waiting till marriage. If somebody comes around and they're making me feel some type of way, I would break my abstinence. Why, though, my last situation ship scarred me?

Speaker 3: 11:38

How so the lavary talk to me.

Speaker 2: 11:48

He was just a sneaky ass scorpio. That's all I could give you. It was messy. Now, do I prefer situation ships? No, will I find myself in one from time to time? Yes, but with me, honesty is key, especially if we're not exclusive. Just be honest with me. We ain't got nothing to be lying about, you know, because I'm going to be honest with that person that I'm tied into and tangled with, if you will. So if it's coming out that you're lying and I'm having to find certain things out in certain ways, and it's just, I don't like the messy shit. I hate messy shit. I'm very introverted, I'm very to myself. So it's like, if I let you in my world, there are parameters.

Speaker 3: 12:53

Okay, and he violated those parameters, sure did.

Speaker 2: 12:58

Over and over actually.

Speaker 3: 12:59

Okay, and that has led to you being abstinent.

Speaker 2: 13:05

Yeah, so before him I was in a relationship I would say my first real adult relationship. We were living together. That lasted like almost a year. Before that guy I was abstinent for three years, so it's kind of a thing for me.

Speaker 3: 13:27

So you're just not a freak.

Speaker 2: 13:31

Only for the right one.

Speaker 3: 13:33

So you never had a threesome.

Speaker 2: 13:35

No, but I want to.

Speaker 3: 13:37

When you say you want to have a threesome, what type of threesome do you want to have? Do you want to have a threesome with two other females, another female and a male, or two other males, or? Would you like to experiment and try all of them.

Speaker 2: 13:54

I feel like girls is what is calling me. When it comes to the threesome type thing, I would have fun with two other girls, I think. Would I do it with a guy and a girl? Yeah, probably Just got to be in the right environment, the right circumstances, the right people. So, yeah, I like, it's not like.

Speaker 3: 14:20

You wouldn't try with two guys.

Speaker 2: 14:23

I feel like that would be a bit much for me personally. Why?

Speaker 3: 14:28

It would be the center of attention. It would be all about you two niggas that you'd have a desire for.

Speaker 2: 14:41

But you know one thing I'm going to say guys, don't be down for shit like that. Yes, they do A lot of the time, not the ones that I be around anyway.

Speaker 3: 14:50

They certainly do.

Speaker 2: 14:51

They don't be down for shit like that. When it comes to I don't know at least I haven't met many- so let's say, you met two guys. And they're down for it.

Speaker 3: 15:05

And they were both intriguing to you on separate accounts.

Speaker 2: 15:09

Okay.

Speaker 3: 15:10

You presented the idea to them and they both were fit. Would that be something you could move forward with? Have you ever been in a situation where you was fucking two niggas at once?

Speaker 2: 15:25

Never. No, I'm just not one of those. If I'm fucking you, I'm fucking you, just you, and that's whether it's a guy, girl doesn't matter, like I just.

Speaker 3: 15:39

So you never cheated.

Speaker 2: 15:41

No, never.

Speaker 3: 15:43

You hesitated.

Speaker 2: 15:44

Never.

Speaker 3: 15:45

Okay so not once.

Speaker 2: 15:48

Should I have Probably a couple of times, but no, never.

Speaker 3: 15:53

That's interesting.

Speaker 2: 15:54

Why.

Speaker 3: 15:57

People typically lie to me when I ask them that question, not saying that you are right now, but just because of the platform we're on and I haven't really met someone that was like, yeah, I've cheated Really.

Speaker 2: 16:14

Yeah, people typically lie about that because they want to protect their image, you know, and that is interesting, though, because I feel like these days, like, cheating is such a normalized thing, so it's like have you done it before? Like fuck it, you've done it before.

Speaker 3: 16:31

Yeah, for sure.

Speaker 2: 16:32

But you know, people can of course, like you said, want to protect their image. But yeah, I've never cheated, never.

Speaker 3: 16:41

Okay, so have you ever been cheated on?

Speaker 2: 16:48

Yeah.

Speaker 3: 16:50

And you were aware.

Speaker 2: 16:54

I kind of find out everything, so yeah, and you stayed. Yes.

Speaker 3: 17:05

And you were able to stay without retaliating, knowing that he was just out there fucking another bitch or she was just out there doing whatever.

Speaker 2: 17:20

I'm sorry that's me. No, you're good, I'm.

Speaker 3: 17:21

I'm sorry.

Speaker 2: 17:21

I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. See, when it comes to like the getting your lick back type of thing, that's cool and all, but I don't do it with my kuchi Like, I just don't. That's not the first thing I do, like if I find out you're cheating on me.

Speaker 3: 17:41

You suck a nigga dick.

Speaker 2: 17:43

Not even like I mean. Again, I told you I don't link with niggas like.

Speaker 1: 17:47

I don't.

Speaker 2: 17:48

So that's what I'm saying. Like if you're getting the time of day, when it comes to me, it's a big deal and I'm not gonna put myself through the stress of trying to find another nigga. See if he's worth even wanting to fuck, then if I fuck him and it's not even good, then I'm gonna be like, damn well, that was pointless. You know what I mean. So for me, like when it comes to getting my lick back, it's okay, you stepped out, so I'm gonna talk to other people Now how that works, because eventually, every time I'm gonna leave, like once you cheat on me, you break my trust. My thing is, I'm really loyal, so I'm gonna keep trying with you. How?

Speaker 3: 18:33

do you be finding out you be going through niggas'?

Speaker 2: 18:37

phones. I found out. So the dude that I was living with, we had taken some cute pictures, whatever, some spicy pictures, you know and he was asleep and I went to set that picture as his lock screen and found out he was cheating.

Speaker 3: 18:57

So you violated his trust. You went through his phone unauthorized.

Speaker 2: 19:01

Technically, I wasn't looking for it, but yeah.

Speaker 3: 19:03

So how did you find it?

Speaker 2: 19:05

How did I find it? It was there Like I had to send the pictures from my phone to his phone, and so when I went into the messages to get the pictures, I was seeing certain things that I really didn't want to see. So yeah, technically I was in his business. Definitely I invaded his privacy.

Speaker 3: 19:26

Whatever Do you let your niggas go to your phone.

Speaker 2: 19:30

Yeah, I ain't got nothing to hide.

Speaker 1: 19:32

Okay.

Speaker 2: 19:33

Okay, I have my passcode. I ain't got nothing to hide.

Speaker 3: 19:36

Okay.

Speaker 2: 19:37

So if you're cheating, then of course you're going to. Still, you could go through my phone, but you're going to see something you don't like. That's up to you, though. Yeah.

Speaker 1: 19:43

You know, Mm-hmm.

Speaker 2: 19:46

In other situations I even with this. I should have already known that this guy was cheating, because he gave me Chromydia that was the one and only STD I've ever had in my life and I swore I was going to kill him. I swore I was going to kill him but for some reason I stayed so and then on top of it I found the stuff in his phone and after that it was it was wraps. But yeah, damn, yeah, I don't cheat back. I can't, I can't lose the cool cheating.

Speaker 3: 20:20

So he burned, you Sure did. And uh, what was it like addressing him when you found out you got burned. How did you find out you got burned?

Speaker 2: 20:33

Um, I get checked regularly, so that's how I found out, and it's funny because he had said something to me that made me think about my body, and something was you know What'd he say he had said something after you know we.

Speaker 2: 20:56

What was it that he said? I think we had, we had just finished having sex and he was like oh, like one of the things that I like is that I can smell when you're turned on, and so that was a like a light bulb went off in my head because I'm like my shit usually smells like water, like there is no smell, like. So so if there's a smell and I think that's exactly what I said to him, like okay, I'm going to go get checked out and he started getting a bit defensive. So I should have realized right there, like oh, no, you are doing something you're not supposed to do. But I didn't. How did I go about addressing him? I had to call him because he decided he didn't want to come home that night for whatever reason, and I said it to him over FaceTime and he didn't really have much to say because he knew he knew what he did, and him not having anything to say pissed me off even more, so I blocked him.

Speaker 3: 22:00

And that was it that was that. But he lived with you, so he came home Eventually. And how did that?

Speaker 1: 22:05

play out.

Speaker 2: 22:07

We had to have a talk about it. He said that he wasn't lying to me when he said that the Last time he had sex was the month before we started dating and you know, with Chlamydia a lot of guys don't even know they have it, which is true Like he wasn't having any symptoms, nothing, and he had a false negative test when he got tested. So that's basically what happened and he got it taken care of and that was that.

Speaker 3: 22:42

Yeah, that's crazy. There's also. There's another in Staten Island right now KK and I just got some reports of him giving a bitch gonorrhea. Jesus and someone else reported to me in 2020 that he gave them Chlamydia too. So if you're dealing with KK, if you're dealing with Kent and Smith, I absolutely advise you to get tested and stop fucking that nigga raw, because I have multiple reports of him out there burning bitches. So, kent and Smith, and some guys.

Speaker 3: 23:27

You're a bad boy, kent and Smith. Bad boy naughty. Yeah, you're a bad boy, kent and Smith.

Speaker 2: 23:33

Some of them do that on purpose, though, like there's a lot of guys that find out they have something incurable and they so mad they just want to give it to everybody that they can. I be seeing that all the time.

Speaker 3: 23:46

Yeah, it's more of a selfish thing. You know he still wants to fuck bitches and things like that. You know he got a whole bitch at home Still out there fucking bitches, raw at that Like that's sickening, that's absolutely sickening, to say the least. Yeah, but um, so you have sickle cell.

Speaker 2: 24:11

I do.

Speaker 3: 24:12

Talk to me about what it's like having sickle cell and some of the symptoms that you face, some of the struggles, your ups and downs, and just give me a summary of what it's like living with sickle cell.

Speaker 2: 24:27

Okay. So sickle cell is a blood disorder. It primarily only affects black people, hispanic people and basically your red cells look like donuts. They bring your oxygen throughout your whole body. Mine look like bananas, so they get stuck. So the number one symptom is pain, pain, crises. On top of that, I also deal with things like fatigue, being exhausted. I've had lung issues because, again, it deals with your blood. So there are times where I get really sick. Pneumonia is fatal for people with sickle cell sometimes. So there are times where I'm just not getting enough oxygen and I personally I deal with acute chest. I have multiple times. The last time I had it I was actually in a coma. I was on a ventilator on life support. So it's really hard.

Speaker 2: 25:33

It's hard to deal with sickle cell. Definitely, I just have to go about life a little bit differently than most people. I have more things to think about, to take into account. You know I'm hospitalized pretty frequently, which is tough because it makes it hard for me to hold a job or be able to make sure I'm on my P's and Q's when I was in school, things like that, what else? So I am the only of my siblings to have sickle cell disease.

Speaker 2: 26:25

I had an aunt who also had it from my dad's side. She recently just passed, at the end of 2022. And you know, I just take it day by day. I'm just rolling with the punches. That's all I can really do with being chronically ill. But it is an invisible disease so it makes it really hard to get help from hospitals because you know doctors come in and look at you and be like you don't look like you're in pain, you are an addict, you're looking for meds and it's like actually, my drug of choice would be me at home smoking a blunt right now. Obviously, that's not working. So that's why I'm here. We face a lot of racial discrimination in hospitals. Speaking for myself and other people with sickle cell, I know a lot of people with sickle cell, so it could be tough. Definitely it's an interesting life. That's all I can say.

Speaker 3: 27:32

Yeah, I'm sure it is. I'm sure it is. So discrimination is something that you face a lot here in Connecticut, at the hospital, definitely, and it's because you're seeking medication.

Speaker 2: 27:46

It's because I'm black and in pain, pretty much like just in general as a black person, your pain is villainized when you're in hospitals, you know for sure. So, especially if it's like a little black girl who's coming in saying you're in so much pain and you take really high doses of pain medicine and you know you're saying it's not working, I guess it raises red flags. I don't know what the issue is, but it can be tough.

Speaker 3: 28:24

Yeah, I'm sure it can. Have you ever been hospitalized in New York?

Speaker 2: 28:29

Never.

Speaker 3: 28:30

Only in Connecticut.

Speaker 2: 28:32

Connecticut, Atlanta, Florida.

Speaker 3: 28:36

And how was it in Atlanta versus Connecticut?

Speaker 2: 28:43

Atlanta was interesting because the hospital that I went to was like a trauma center so their thing was like they were really good with like gunshot wounds and stuff like that. They did have a sickle cell clinic but it wasn't the best. That whole experience was traumatizing and just a lot. So I went to school in Atlanta so when I got sick down there I already had what we call like pain passport. It was basically all the things that worked for me with my doctors up here. All the surgeries I've been through like anything they would have needed to know was in there. So I brought that to the sickle cell clinic there and the first thing they did was give me the wrong pain medicine. So my first five days inpatient in Atlanta I hallucinated. I don't remember anything.

Speaker 3: 29:45

Damn.

Speaker 2: 29:46

Yeah, it was very scary and they were, I don't know. Atlanta in general is just a bit slower. You know it's the South like they're just not as quick with things as we are up here. Florida was interesting because Florida already has a major drug problem, especially opioids. So when it came to like getting my pain medication that I needed, most of the time no pharmacies had it because they didn't like holding it there because of the drug problem that they had. So it was different everywhere. I would say Connecticut is the best, which is why I ended up coming back home, because I felt like I just needed to be somewhere. Like I said, I've been in a coma, I've been on a ventilator, so I just needed to know that if I was to get super sick right now, doctors would know what to do.

Speaker 3: 30:46

And they wouldn't be giving you the wrong drugs and shit like that.

Speaker 2: 30:49

Exactly.

Speaker 3: 30:50

You would actually have access to the medication you need Exactly. Yeah, no, I feel you 100%.

Speaker 2: 30:55

Yeah.

Speaker 3: 30:56

I feel you for sure. So does sickle cell tie into your dating? Of course, how so?

Speaker 2: 31:11

Well, that's one of the things, like I told you, I need someone who's dependable, like that's why, like I, it could be a lot to do with. And I feel like I've dated people. You know what I will say is women have been a lot more empathetic and passionate Exactly when it, when it comes to that. But with guys like I've dated people that are, oh, I can handle it, like you don't have to worry about it, you act like I don't know how to treat a girl and it's like, no, I'm explaining that me having sickle cell comes with a lot. And it's like they say, they, they got it until we're eight months in and I'm sick every day, and they're like, damn, you're still sick, you're still in the bed, like, yeah, I'm chronically ill. That that's kind of what comes with it.

Speaker 2: 32:03

Like I have my days, but especially like during this season, the winter season, it's really really hard for me. So it's it's definitely it's a big part of like trying to date is trying to find someone who can really handle it the way that they say they can, and who can really, who I can really depend on, and I think that is part of the reason why I stayed with the dude who cheated on me Because he, his mother, was sick but and before she died he took care of her. So he was very attentive to me when it came to my sickle cell and every doctor's appointment he was bringing me, making sure I'm taking my meds, making sure I'm drinking my water, like even down to the little things, like we would have a ritual, like when we take a shower he would rub my whole body down to make sure I'm, you know, like good.

Speaker 2: 33:05

Like he was very attentive.

Speaker 3: 33:08

And nurturing Exactly. Yeah, that's what's up. Well, this sucks that it had to end that way.

Speaker 2: 33:16

Yeah, she happens.

Speaker 3: 33:17

Yeah, so um dating in 2024,. What are you, what are you expecting, what are you looking for? I'm not you just want to. I'm not looking to continue that 495 day run.

Speaker 2: 33:35

I really don't, but it's like I'm just vibing, like if somebody comes along who's actually worth it, then they come along. If not, I'm good on my own. Like I'm just vibing, I'm just taking it day by day. That's literally all I can do.

Speaker 3: 33:52

Okay, I can jack that, I can get the shit. Dms looking like real weird.

Speaker 2: 34:00

Talk to me they could be real weird.

Speaker 3: 34:02

Like talk to me please. What's, what's, what's weird?

Speaker 2: 34:06

especially on Facebook. It's like I don't know if it's like something that I'm posting, certain things that I'm saying, but I think niggas have an issue with assuming that every girl is a 304.

Speaker 2: 34:24

Like a prostitute. Like, I am not someone who's impressed by money, so it's like I have a lot of dudes in my DMs like, oh, like, let me pay your bills. Okay, here's the cash app. Oh, but it's transactional. Why do you think that? Do I give 304? Like, why did you think that was going to be a thing? So there's a lot of that and a lot of young dudes.

Speaker 3: 35:01

Are you into young dudes?

Speaker 2: 35:02

No.

Speaker 3: 35:03

You like older guys?

Speaker 2: 35:04

Yes, need an older guy.

Speaker 3: 35:07

How much older do you like them?

Speaker 2: 35:10

My age is already pushing it, so I would prefer maybe like 28 and up.

Speaker 3: 35:23

Okay, okay, that's reasonable.

Speaker 2: 35:25

Yeah, so yeah. The Instagram it's a lot of just young dudes just sending me emojis.

Speaker 3: 35:33

Hard eyes and shit.

Speaker 2: 35:34

Yeah, or just like the little eyes like hey, like what's going on, but nothing intriguing at all and my best friend wants me to have a man so bad. So she signed me up for hinge and that's a whole other thing. It's interesting to see the least.

Speaker 3: 35:59

I had hinge too. Yeah, all of those, those dating sites be you meet weird people in there, very weird.

Speaker 2: 36:06

And most of them just want to fuck. That's it.

Speaker 3: 36:09

Yeah, definitely.

Speaker 2: 36:10

It's not a place to find love you could potentially People could.

Speaker 3: 36:15

There's some genuine intentions there, but I just think you meet so many weird people that it's like it's so watered down. It's rare that you actually find what you're genuinely looking for.

Speaker 2: 36:28

Yeah, yeah, and I'm just a hard person to get in touch with. In general, like I said, I'm an introvert, like I'm in my own little world, like you got to be real interesting to catch my attention, enough for me to even want to talk to you, enough to know you know what I mean.

Speaker 3: 36:53

For sure.

Speaker 2: 36:55

Yeah, I'm just weird like that, so I don't give niggas time a day, mostly time, that's why, I'm at 4.95 right now.

Speaker 3: 37:06

What kind of DM would be like, okay, I could fuck with that, let me see what this guy's about. Let me actually go to his profile and see what's up. What would it take to get that type of response from you?

Speaker 2: 37:25

I don't know. Like I said, I don't really like link dudes, but it's like if a dude wants to hit me up and be like I want to take you here and I want to go at this time and I want you to and has a plan, I might be into that. Also, I'm aware of the query. Is so like you got to spark my mind, like spark my interest, talk about something interesting that would make me pay attention to you. Something interesting, something entertaining. I just don't do small talk very well, that's my issue.

Speaker 3: 38:11

Yeah, you, straight to the point.

Speaker 2: 38:12

Yeah, I'm not interested in the small talk too much.

Speaker 3: 38:15

You still have your tongue ring.

Speaker 2: 38:17

No, I took it. I just recently took it out.

Speaker 3: 38:20

How come?

Speaker 2: 38:22

I was having, like what is what are those things called? Like ulcers on my tongue, because I was spiking a fever for a while so I just took it out. But I want to get another piercing, not the same tongue ring, but what is it called? Like the fall guys, the ones that go across.

Speaker 3: 38:42

Snake eyes.

Speaker 2: 38:43

Yeah, no, snake is at the tip, all guys are is like the same exact thing as the tongue ring, but sideways.

Speaker 3: 38:50

Okay, okay.

Speaker 2: 38:51

Yeah, but I don't have it right now. What?

Speaker 3: 38:55

was how long did you have a tongue ring?

Speaker 2: 39:01

Two years, maybe three.

Speaker 3: 39:05

So you had it before the 495 streak. For sure yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 2: 39:19

I was in a relationship.

Speaker 3: 39:21

So you got it for a second dick. I think you're the first girl that said that honestly.

Speaker 2: 39:30

Yeah, I well, you know, initially it was just like it's cute, I like I'm a person who likes Piercings tattoos. I'm just in all that and I am willing to try anything like. I've had my nipples pierced, so it's like yeah so he wanted you to get a tongue ring. No, they drew on my own and.

Speaker 3: 39:53

Then you went to work.

Speaker 2: 39:56

You could say that, I guess.

Speaker 3: 39:59

How was it? Did you enjoy using the tongue ring?

Speaker 2: 40:03

Yeah, I would say him specifically. He didn't really get to reap the benefits because I was like at the end of our relationship but my situation ship. He, yeah, definitely I. I enjoyed it, he enjoyed it Okay.

Speaker 3: 40:19

And that sucks for some. That was in a relationship with you, huh.

Speaker 2: 40:22

Oh yeah.

Speaker 3: 40:24

Are y'all still in contact?

Speaker 2: 40:25

Haven't talked to him since the dad kicked him out.

Speaker 3: 40:29

So if he was interested in Rick Hedlid, would you?

Speaker 2: 40:31

know he, um he recently, well, last year he Was like asking about me through people and I was just like why Never reached out? I haven't talked to him since that day. I'm just not interested, but again, he was also young.

Speaker 3: 40:50

Yeah, he was younger than me. So what about your situation ship? What if he wanted to rekindle?

Speaker 2: 40:59

Next question.

Speaker 3: 41:03

Oh, oh, next question Okay so let's talk a little bit more about your situation. Ship. I See, when I asked you that you had, like you, stuck in a little trans, I could tell you, is you ain't shit? Oh, so I could tell you was thinking about Probably 495 days ago. Is that what just happened?

Speaker 2: 41:32

So here's the thing and I don't want to say it cuz then you know what, whatever I'm just saying that man was truly my best eater, like my best. So it's like anytime he's brought up of course I'm gonna be in a little trans thinking about it. Wow, like Amazing, better than a girl, like crazy. But you know, we Butted heads a lot like we had a lot of issues like we both had Really bad trust issues, really bad abandonment issues. Both of us and I knew him for so long.

Speaker 2: 42:16

I met him when we were 14 years old and he randomly sent me a Facebook message and request and then message me and was like, do you remember me? And I was like, should I? Like I had no idea who he is and that's how we ended up rekindling whatever. But we definitely had like a lot of issues and, like I said, those 495 days has been hard. I've been going through it. You know like it's been tough and I definitely tried to hit him up and get my eater back and it didn't work.

Speaker 3: 42:52

So why didn't it work? Or he dubbed you, oh, so he's really dumb with you.

Speaker 2: 42:57

He's sick like that, something like that sick of your shit.

Speaker 3: 43:01

What did you do?

Speaker 2: 43:04

Why I left him, so he feels some type of way about that yeah, but usually niggas come back like right, right.

Speaker 3: 43:11

So when I go put, his foot down and he like oh no, I'm not fucking with this bitch. Then you had to do something.

Speaker 2: 43:18

You know me no so I left him and you know I tried to see where he was at like and he was like again we were arguing, because conversation could never just go smoothly with us too and you know he was saying I Was trying to do this with you, like I really wanted you da, da, da, da. And I was like you wanted like past tense, like so it's different. Now no response. So I'm like, hmm, I Never had him. Just leave me on red type shit, like that's crazy. And then maybe a week later I see him Post Christmas pictures with his girl.

Speaker 3: 44:03

So yeah, that's what I was about to say. He had already moved on in a relationship. Yeah, got something going for himself.

Speaker 2: 44:09

Yeah, he could have just said that, though. That would have been cool, but he didn't want to, so he probably wanted both.

Speaker 3: 44:15

You know he probably wanted you on the side.

Speaker 2: 44:17

I exactly.

Speaker 3: 44:18

He couldn't decide so if he wanted to have a situation, ship with you.

Speaker 2: 44:21

You know it's not that type, Couldn't be. I'm too much to deal with like I'm a lot to deal with on my own. You can't handle to. I Know for a fact you can't.

Speaker 3: 44:33

But what if it's just having you on the side, like he still got his main and you're just Something on the side that y'all do, which I'll do when y'all do it? Would you be, would you be able to accept that you got to keep your mouth closed?

Speaker 1: 44:53

Well, I'm already, I don't be doing a lot of the talking, you get your best eater back.

Speaker 2: 44:59

It's, it's really. It don't got nothing to do with that, it's just like for you to eat me, like that I'm gonna get attached to you. Yeah, that's what it is Like. So I could say like, yeah, I'm cool, like I don't care what you're doing over there, but Once I hit that phone and I'm waiting for you to come through and you can't cuz, you got this going on with her. Now it's an issue.

Speaker 3: 45:22

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 45:23

To be honest, no, I feel you. I don't think I could handle that.

Speaker 3: 45:29

So you've never been a side chick before.

Speaker 2: 45:32

Not knowingly, yeah, not knowingly.

Speaker 3: 45:38

Okay so, with some plans you got for 2024, but what was some you got coming up this year or some you want to work towards some goals you got.

Speaker 2: 45:48

I would say my biggest plan is to Get myself out of my shell and start networking again which this was like a big part of that because I'm just so shy and in my own world and my world is wristband only and I'm trying to open that up a little bit you know yeah because you never know like I Gotta be more open-minded when it comes to things. I'm just real apprehensive with strangers like super what you should be, you know right.

Speaker 3: 46:25

You definitely should be apprehensive when it comes to strangers. And Uh, Everything that glitters ain't cold of course.

Speaker 2: 46:36

But being apprehensive, being being cautious Doesn't mean don't put yourself out there at all.

Speaker 2: 46:43

Yeah, that's my issue, yeah right, I'm so cautious and so, and you know I struggle with anxiety and I struggle with mental health stuff too. So it's like I'm so overly like protective of myself. That is like I'm not doing nothing and I feel like I miss having my social life, I miss Doing certain things, trying new things. So that's my main goal is like Put myself out there a little bit more, be more open, try some new things. Um, I want to make more money this year. I have a lip gloss line. It's called Miss Paint Cosmetics. I really want to expand that this year.

Speaker 3: 47:27

Okay, that's what's up. You got an swear for it. Mm-hmm, what's this Miss?

Speaker 2: 47:30

Paint Cosmetics on Instagram and Try to, you know, focusing on that more. I've had to take like a big break from it just because I was dealing with so much health stuff. So, yeah, I feel like those are my goals and getting more active this year as well.

Speaker 3: 47:52

Active in regards to what?

Speaker 2: 47:54

Like physical health.

Speaker 3: 47:55

Okay, going on jogs and stuff like that.

Speaker 2: 47:58

I can.

Speaker 3: 48:01

Okay, that's what's up. Okay, that's a rat. Episode 21 with Miss Pink. If you nasty Uh-huh, shout out to IG again, your Facebook the real miss pink.

Speaker 2: 48:17

Y'all don't got to worry about the face for me, the Facebook alone. No, we talking a little crazy on there, so don't worry about that. But the real M is P. I am okay.

Speaker 3: 48:28

All right and um, y'all be sure to add me on Facebook and tune into the Elliott Carter show. I got a lot of interesting stories that I'm sharing up there. Uh, thank you, miss paint, for coming to this platform and sharing your story with us so you're always Thank you and, yeah, you can look forward to hearing from Miss Pink again. Thank y'all for tuning in live from the motherfucking gutter.